The end of the year is a great time to reflect on not only what happened in your life, but what you learned from it.
Life is often our best teacher. By the time we are 10, we have most of our beliefs etched in our brain telling us "how life works." These beliefs get reinforced as time goes on and we consciously or subconsciously find proof that our beliefs are true.
For example, if you believe that you'll always be broke, your mind will inevitably look for evidence of that idea all around you each and every day. Or, if you believed as a child that you would always be chubby, you'll likely have a hard time believing that it is safe to be trim and toned because it counters what you believed to be true.
This is why it's important to take inventory on what your LIFE is teaching you and what beliefs might be driving your actions.
Before you jump into the fresh energy of the New Year, let's add in some VITAMIN A = AWARENESS.
Without awareness, there is no intention.
We'd simply walk through life in "reaction" mode just trying to fix ourselves.
My challenge to you is this:
- Pour a cup of tea or wine, light a candle, grab a cozy blanket and your journal
- Then, reflecting on the highs and lows of your year, answer these questions:
- What empowering lesson can I take from this?
- Where is the upgrade?
- Find the thematic thread.
Here's my own reflection of 2017 and the lessons I've learned that I'd like to share with you.
LESSON 1: The path to your purpose is often messy.
The path to your dreams is often super messy and much less glamorous than we hope it will be. It takes a willingness to face discomfort, fail forward and stay in the arena NO. MATTER. WHAT.
This past year, I did scary things. After an intensive speakers training, I ended up on a stage in NYC shooting a video about Body Positivity.
You can see the final product of this scary adventure here.
I learned that when you make friends with doubt, insecurity and discomfort, the things you are most afraid of aren't so scary after all.
They are teachers bringing you gifts and expanded perspectives of what you are capable of and what your purpose is.
Hint: It’s not staying comfortable and playing small.
Oh, I also realized we mostly see the polished end result of people’s hard work.
Trust me, behind the scenes it’s lots of tears and sweat. Faith helps too. And not knowing what you're signing up for. That also helps.
LESSON 2: You can't save the world alone.
I asked for help. A lot of it.
I was out of my comfort zone most of the year, therefore, I found myself needing a lot of help. I had to ask and receive. Pride aside. Friends, teachers, neighbors, family, colleagues.
Again and again and again.
In return, my life became fuller and fuller with rich relationships that have given me roots and wings for this next season as I serve more people.
When people care, they want to help.
Sometimes you'll be surprised by who shows up for you. It isn’t always who you think.
Ask. Recieve. Be surprised.
LESSON 3: Sometimes not having a plan IS the plan.
This year, I literally let my grand plans deconstruct.
Even though I paid A LOT to train as a speaker, I let go of the need to be a speaker. Even though I have owned my own business for years, I was open to working for someone else if need be. Even as I tried to parent my teenage daughter to my preferences, I eventually let go of needing to micromanage her (this was a hard one).
The less attached to the outcome I became, the more things just fell into place.
Funny how that works.
We are often coached towards creating more certainty in our lives via scheduling, planning and envisioning. Those tools can be helpful at times. Other times they get in the way.
Allow yourself to not know. Fluidity is key.
It’s okay to not know what is coming next. What’s more important than knowing the plan is living in harmony with your body, soul and environment. Some call this “alignment.”
When we have inner harmony, it seems that things outside of us begin to conspire for our benefit.
We begin to see the un-orchestrated mercies and magic all around us. God gives us those little “keep going” nudges. Just enough light for the next step. Unless you are in the right inner state, the plan likely won’t work anyways.
LESSON 4: Taking a break is essential.
I took time away.
Sometimes during the year, I lost my footing, but I returned again to the simple things like petting my dog, taking a social media break, breathing deeply, taking a walk, and journaling. The highlight by far was taking a two day "mini-retreat" by myself in town.
Rest. Clarity. Solitude. Bliss.
When we are spiritually starved, the first place it shows up is in the physical. Taking time away is literal soul nourishment.
Often we hope that if we could just get more done, then we would have peace. It really is the other way around. Do less. Become still. Listen.
From here we respond to what is actually needed rather than react to the barrage of outside noise.
LESSON 5: Relationship maintenance is everything.
After 20 years, my husband and I have learned a thing or two about putting out relational fires and preventing them.
Just as clearing out the cobwebs regularly takes much less of a toll than trying to clear out years of built-up gunk, such is our relationships.
Check in often. Play together on the regular. It helps you not take things so personally.
Go back to Lesson 1. Ask for help. The right marriage counselor or mentor is even more effective if you go routinely for a check-up. Don't wait until everything is falling apart.
"Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It is the courage to continue that counts."
Stay tuned for what's coming next year!
Here's a hint:
- In 12 weeks, you will feel more healthy and vibrant than you have in years.
- You will finally kick that sugar addiction.
- You will know how to deal with food triggers and cravings
- You will feel more connected in your mind, body and soul.
- You will literally crave whole foods.
- You will be much closer to your natural weight.
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